Wow "If only it were that simple. Here’s the painful paradox that ruins men like you: Self-punishment feels morally satisfying in the short term. It gives the illusion of taking responsibility. But, in the long-term, it fuels ongoing guilt. You never resolve the original guilt and beating the shit out of yourself becomes another data point that proves why you should feel guilty. And the cycle repeats and drives the guilt into shame."
Regret, guilt, and shame are incredibly hard to carry. Thank you for writing about this and how it lands differently for men. I think it is "easier" for me to sit in regret, guilt, and shame than it is to stand outside it (but nearby because it will always be there) and to acknowledge that I am just not that powerful, and I could not have stopped it.
Wow "If only it were that simple. Here’s the painful paradox that ruins men like you: Self-punishment feels morally satisfying in the short term. It gives the illusion of taking responsibility. But, in the long-term, it fuels ongoing guilt. You never resolve the original guilt and beating the shit out of yourself becomes another data point that proves why you should feel guilty. And the cycle repeats and drives the guilt into shame."
What was it about that part that resonated with you brother?
Regret, guilt, and shame are incredibly hard to carry. Thank you for writing about this and how it lands differently for men. I think it is "easier" for me to sit in regret, guilt, and shame than it is to stand outside it (but nearby because it will always be there) and to acknowledge that I am just not that powerful, and I could not have stopped it.