Jason - I am so grateful for your vulnerability in sharing this. I can't think of a better way to help others stumbling through the darkness unsure where to start, grab hold of or find a safe place to share their pain. Grief is universal yet because it is pain, as humans, we try to stay away from it - sadly that is what leaves us in the perpetual hell that we can't escape from.
When we lose a child, it goes against the natural laws, and as a man we have tendency to feel like we are failure. For me it was about, trying to keep my Brooke safe and it took years to come to terms that I did all I could with the tools, resources and mindset I was in. In hindsight I "should have" all over myself until I realized that it doesn't help a single person.
After I pulled my head out of my ass, which took almost four years, then I was able to forgive myself. The one of many steps forward.
Life will be forever different and I have accepted that it will never go back to the way it was.
Man, what an incredibly powerful insight from a man who's living the loss of his beautiful daughter. You've just given me the gift of your experience in a way that already has me thinking about revamping some of what I've already written.
I love you too my friend. Thank you for your friendship and inspiration.
Dealing with the alcoholic mind , aka alcoholic thinking , or ego is crucial to sustainable growth in my experience. Because that is the basis of my dysfunction.
Hey Jason, I love your writings and insights. However, I don’t think you should call your book “Man up and Heal” as that is already the problem with our society. Men are not supposed to be vulnerable or have feelings. They’re just supposed to “man up” and “git er done”, instead of taking stock of their emotions and taking the time to heal, as you have done. ❤️
That’s an interesting observation. My thinking was combining Man Up and Healing might actually work to dispel the idea of Manning Up being about gitting ‘er done.
In other words, actually healing is the next version of Manning Up.
What do you think about that? I appreciate your feedback!
I think it might take too many words to make it sound palatable to my ears, at least. Something like, “If you want to man up..take the time to heal.”🤗❤️
Jason - I am so grateful for your vulnerability in sharing this. I can't think of a better way to help others stumbling through the darkness unsure where to start, grab hold of or find a safe place to share their pain. Grief is universal yet because it is pain, as humans, we try to stay away from it - sadly that is what leaves us in the perpetual hell that we can't escape from.
When we lose a child, it goes against the natural laws, and as a man we have tendency to feel like we are failure. For me it was about, trying to keep my Brooke safe and it took years to come to terms that I did all I could with the tools, resources and mindset I was in. In hindsight I "should have" all over myself until I realized that it doesn't help a single person.
After I pulled my head out of my ass, which took almost four years, then I was able to forgive myself. The one of many steps forward.
Life will be forever different and I have accepted that it will never go back to the way it was.
Love you, Brother!
Man, what an incredibly powerful insight from a man who's living the loss of his beautiful daughter. You've just given me the gift of your experience in a way that already has me thinking about revamping some of what I've already written.
I love you too my friend. Thank you for your friendship and inspiration.
Dealing with the alcoholic mind , aka alcoholic thinking , or ego is crucial to sustainable growth in my experience. Because that is the basis of my dysfunction.
Amen brother ♥️♥️
Hey Jason, I love your writings and insights. However, I don’t think you should call your book “Man up and Heal” as that is already the problem with our society. Men are not supposed to be vulnerable or have feelings. They’re just supposed to “man up” and “git er done”, instead of taking stock of their emotions and taking the time to heal, as you have done. ❤️
That’s an interesting observation. My thinking was combining Man Up and Healing might actually work to dispel the idea of Manning Up being about gitting ‘er done.
In other words, actually healing is the next version of Manning Up.
What do you think about that? I appreciate your feedback!
I think it might take too many words to make it sound palatable to my ears, at least. Something like, “If you want to man up..take the time to heal.”🤗❤️
This is why I love posting on Substack. It’s so nice to get feedback from smart people who care! Thank you ♥️
So appreciate this post and very much resonate with it. Will definitely be passing it on.