"That our greatest gifts often emerge from our deepest tragedies."
A profound statement indeed.
OMG, my heart breaks for you. ❤️🫂🙏😭 Please know that you are loved and you are forgiven. Shame is such an incredibly painful experience that we all face for having been too smug in our own confidence and superiority.
While I, too, have lost my two children, it wasn't death that took them from me. It was our inability to discuss and resolve the trauma that their father, my ex-husband, inflicted on all of us until he eventually ended up an alcoholic and on the street. Trauma is something we all do our best to avoid processing because it seems easier but, in the end, it festers and destroys lives just as surely as death does.
Thank you so much for your thought provoking comment and for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for your losses but I honour you for turning your pain into purpose ♥️♥️
Just be there quietly loving on, listening. I’m not qualified to help with counseling but would gently or strongly, depending on the situation suggest to seek medical/talk therapy care;assistance in attempts to deal with and heal allowing the healing to scab over leaving just the scar (in an ideal world).
I have learned that in the final analysis, all I can Really control is my response to life. There will always be things that knock you off your donkey when you least expect it.
This was a beautiful and moving piece, and such a rare display of true vulnerability and accountability. Thank you for sharing this, Jason. The passage below stood out to me in particular, and made me reflect on how I show up in the lives of the people I care most about (and in the lives of everyone else, for that matter).
"Now, I understand something I once resisted: I rarely know what’s best for someone else. Even when I do, it’s a much greater gift to be present and curious enough to help them uncover it for themselves."
Much love to you and your family, Jason. No doubt the way you're showing up as a dad to them is having a remarkable impact on who they're becoming as adults.
Hey Jason - been reading through some of your stuff here and am very touched. I appreciate the candid discussion and resonate with it.
I myself have been doing some (more poetic) writing on grief and manhood - and generally emotional discovery - if you are interested. Thank you for your work.
Damn, Jason. I'm sorry about your wife and I'm sorry about Chloe. I'm not a Dad but I have certainly experienced life-altering loss and grief. I admire the work you are now doing for others. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏼
"That our greatest gifts often emerge from our deepest tragedies."
A profound statement indeed.
OMG, my heart breaks for you. ❤️🫂🙏😭 Please know that you are loved and you are forgiven. Shame is such an incredibly painful experience that we all face for having been too smug in our own confidence and superiority.
While I, too, have lost my two children, it wasn't death that took them from me. It was our inability to discuss and resolve the trauma that their father, my ex-husband, inflicted on all of us until he eventually ended up an alcoholic and on the street. Trauma is something we all do our best to avoid processing because it seems easier but, in the end, it festers and destroys lives just as surely as death does.
Thank you so much for your thought provoking comment and for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for your losses but I honour you for turning your pain into purpose ♥️♥️
Jesus hell fire. I’m sorry you have lived such terrifying, earth rattling pain. Thank you for generously sharing with us.
Thank you for reading, friend.
Just be there quietly loving on, listening. I’m not qualified to help with counseling but would gently or strongly, depending on the situation suggest to seek medical/talk therapy care;assistance in attempts to deal with and heal allowing the healing to scab over leaving just the scar (in an ideal world).
Thank you so much for reading and commenting friend.
I have learned that in the final analysis, all I can Really control is my response to life. There will always be things that knock you off your donkey when you least expect it.
That is true indeed.
This was a beautiful and moving piece, and such a rare display of true vulnerability and accountability. Thank you for sharing this, Jason. The passage below stood out to me in particular, and made me reflect on how I show up in the lives of the people I care most about (and in the lives of everyone else, for that matter).
"Now, I understand something I once resisted: I rarely know what’s best for someone else. Even when I do, it’s a much greater gift to be present and curious enough to help them uncover it for themselves."
Much love to you and your family, Jason. No doubt the way you're showing up as a dad to them is having a remarkable impact on who they're becoming as adults.
Hey Jason - been reading through some of your stuff here and am very touched. I appreciate the candid discussion and resonate with it.
I myself have been doing some (more poetic) writing on grief and manhood - and generally emotional discovery - if you are interested. Thank you for your work.
https://nickchapmanjones.substack.com/p/gifts-beyond-deaths-reach?utm_source=substack&utm_content=feed%3Arecommended%3Acopy_link
Thank you for sharing brother. I will check out your writing ♥️
Damn, Jason. I'm sorry about your wife and I'm sorry about Chloe. I'm not a Dad but I have certainly experienced life-altering loss and grief. I admire the work you are now doing for others. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏼